The Queen of Overthinking

I admit it! I’m the queen of overthinking. And it drives me crazy—unfortunately, only in retrospect. But I’m working on it. How many of you can relate? How do you quiet your overthinking mind? How do you solve the problems it creates?

Overthinking can come from a place of vulnerability and uncertainty, mostly from things you can’t control. And that serves up a defense mechanism that creates insecurities. Those insecurities trigger stress, anxiety, depression, and paranoia and create an emotional state that can lead to overthinking.

Can you eliminate overthinking? Yes, but it first requires self-awareness. The more you know about you, the better you can understand what makes you overthink. You think you know but chances are you’ve never stopped to challenge your overthinking! Now, step back and take a deep breath. Try to reduce some of your overthinking by asking yourself these questions and targeting and understanding your triggers.

  • What triggers your overthinking?
  • Why does it make you overthink?
  • What ignites your overthinking?
  • Have you always been an overthinker?
  • When did you first become aware of your overthinking?
  • Is it worry, figuring things out, or overthinking?

It’s time to determine what’s at the core of your overthinking. Time to ask yourself questions, confront issues, and deal with those things being overthought. Take time to reflect on each one. Challenge its existence and why you so easily accept and continue to feed it. Then, purge it from your mind. Replace it with positive, healthy thoughts and moments; then, allow them to dwell there.

Unfortunately, you’ll always overthink some things—and there are some things that do require overthinking or a second thought. It’s overthinking the things you can’t change or control that can keep you unhappy and looking for unachievable solutions. Just remember Positive Aging thrives when it’s motivated by positive thoughts.

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